We’ve all been there. You’re flipping through social media when all the sudden a photo pops up of someone having something you wish you had. Or maybe they are doing something you wish you could do.
At first, you’re thinking “WOW, that’s so cool!” Then all the sudden it hits. Your brain switches from a place of love and excitement to thinking you’re not good enough and/or you will never amount to anything, etc, etc.
That, my friends, is what I like to call the comparison trap. Getting so involved in what OTHER people are doing that you start to forget your own greatness.
So, if you read that whole spiel and thought to yourself “damn this lady gets me,” this weeks podcast is made for you! We go heavy into my own experience with the comparison trap, discuss why it’s a trap, and then I give you some tips to avoid getting caught in it’s grasp again.
Click the player below to listen to the episode or continue to read on for a brief summary.
Why Is The Comparison Trap A Trap?
I’m pretty sure most of you don’t need me to elaborate here, but let’s discuss 3 reasons the comparison trap is super unproductive.
- #1: It decreases your mental state – Does anyone actually feel good when they compare themselves to another person? It’s insane to keep comparing yourself to other people knowing FULL WELL it makes you feel awful about yourself, so why keep doing it?
- #2: It Makes You More Prone To Lash Out – Idk about you, but when I’m in this self loathing state the most annoying thing is someone breaking my focus on how much I hate myself (…again, INSANITY!). This is extremely counterproductive and not at all mindful.
- #3: Your Kids See E. V. E. R. Y. T. H. I. N. G. – EVERYTHING Y’ALL! They will pick up on the fact that you compare yourself to other people so it is, in turn, okay for them to negatively compare themselves. That completely goes against my whole philosophy of raising mindful children.
What Can You Do To Avoid The Comparison Trap?
So now that we know why the comparison trap IS A TRAP, how do we not get caught in its tempting and seemingly inevitable grip?
- #1: Cut Yourself Some Slack – I go into way more detail in the actual podcast, so listen to it if you have time. But, basically, stop being so hard on yourself. It’s much more productive to be your own best friend than your own worst enemy.
- #2: Limit Your Time On Social Media – Every time you log into IG or FB do you instantly feel your mood drop? Put down the phone and stop comparing yourself to the perfectly curated, filter feed of someone else’s life.
- #3: Trim Down The Friends List – This applies to both social media friends and real life friends. If the friendship doesn’t lift you up and make you feel good and supported, it’s time to make like Elsa and LET IT GOOOOO!
- #4: Meditate/Positive Affirmations – I know, I know. Here we go again. Yes, I always suggest meditation, but it is such a powerful tool. I promise if the first thing you do when you wake up is tell yourself you are enough, your outlook on the day will change drastically.
Let’s Grow Together!
I truly hope this episode helps at least one person out there stuck in the comparison trap. Like I said before, I go into WAY more detail in the actual podcast, so be sure to check it out if you want more information.
As always, I would really love to connect deeper with you all. If you have ever experienced the comparison trap or find yourself in the thick of it now, let us know in the comments below what you are doing to get out of it.
Thank you so much for tuning in and joining me again this week. We’ll talk again real soon. Until next time. Peace out, homies!