Hey homies! Welcome back to part II of our But I Could Never Homeschool mini-series! In part I, we discussed 3 of what I’ll call the “lesser” worries about homeschooling. This week are going into the BIG ones.
These are 3 things I hear quite often when I tell people we homeschool. You’ve even heard me discuss one of them before in the very first episode of this show, but the other two fears are just as prominent.
So without further adieu, let’s dive right into Part II of But I Could NEVER Homeschool.
But I’m Not Smart Enough
The most common thing I hear when I tell people we homeschool is “I could never teach my kids math, I barely passed it myself!” This is a totally valid fear and I can 10000% see where you are coming from.
Math (and any other subject for that matter) doesn’t necessarily come intuitively to everyone. So what do you do when you as the teacher struggle with a subject?
You reach out for help, of course.
There are countless resources these days for tutors that range in availability as well as price. Some of my favorite resources are YouTube videos and apps for the tablet. Both of these tend to be free (or cheap) and can be used at any time of day from any location.
If your child needs more structured help, there are a plethora of tutoring centers around. The first two that pop into mind are Sylvan Learning Center and Kumon. You can also enlist the help of a local college or high school student looking to make extra money.
Of course, your area might have different resources than the ones I mentioned that could work better for your child. Take some time to research and ask other homeschooling parents in the area if they have any recommendations.
But My Kids Won’t Socialize
SHUT UP! SHUT UP! SHUT UUuuUUuuuUUUUUPP! (Fast forward to 10:09 in the podcast to catch the reference.)
But seriously, it’s high time we stopped associating homeschooling with lack of socialization. Think about it. Have you ever met an adult and immediately thought, “whoa, that dude was definitely homeschooled”?
Probably not because homeschoolers socialize just as much as public schoolers. Actually, not only are they getting just as much socialization, but homeschoolers are getting a MUCH more positive socialization experience.
At co-ops, they interact with children that are both younger and older than them instead of only being around kids their age. If they are being bullied, you can give them the tools to properly handle the situation first-hand (or remove them from the situation all together if it’s bad enough).
If you’re worried about them not learning how to work as a team member, have them join a team sport. Or, again, sign them up for a co-op (like the 4H club) that gets them involved in team and community projects.
People will try to convince you homeschooling = no social skills. As you may recall from episode 1 of this podcast, my daughters public school teacher used this tactic on me. Just remember, the socialization possibilities really are endless here so don’t let people scare you into believing it’s an issue.
But I Don’t Have Enough Patience
“Oh, you’re not Mother Theresa? Yeah, you definitely wouldn’t make it as a homeschooling parent.” -No One EVER.
I know from the outside it seems like you would need the patience of a saint to be an effective homeschooling parent. Especially if you’re like me and struggle with patience in regular day-to-day scenarios.
The truth is, even the best parents out there lose their patience from time to time. We were all given a specific skill set from our parents in dealing with stress and sometimes it doesn’t always look like patience so we have to work a little harder to find it.
I think there are two key steps to remain patient as a homeschooling parent.
First, practice emotional awareness WITH your children. You’ve heard me talk about teaching mindfulness before and I really think this works well as a group activity. As you are teaching your children to be mindful, you will see the areas in your own life that could use some extra attention.
Second, implement my tips for avoiding homeschool burnout. It’s common knowledge that if you spend 24/7 with another person (even your own children), you will get tired of them. Practicing skills like self love, finding alone time, and regular exercise will help you to find more patience throughout your day.
Patience is not always going to be a linear path. Some days you will be the perfect Pinterest mom and other days you’ll be the Wicked Witch of the West. It’s all a part of the process. Just remember, you are human and you are doing your best (even on the bad days).
Thanks For Tuning In!
And that, my friends, wraps up part II our But I Could Never Homeschool mini-series. I really hope you found the material here helpful and comforting.
If there are any other homeschooling myths circulating around that weren’t addressed in this series, please let me know in the comments below. I am always open to adding onto this series to help ease the fears around homeschooling.
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Until next time. Peace out, homies!